A Couch

February 19, 2011

Rachel and I both plopped on the couch and shortly found ourselves in one of those deep water conversations that surfaces in my memory every so often. The conversation was about feeling stuck, wanting to go further in knowing and trying and experiencing things.

I was in my mid-forties, Rachel in her mid-twenties. At her age I had lived a pretty careful life. Despite moving from the midwest to the Gulf Coast and having three children, I had lived a life defined by “shoulds” and “should nots.”

I didn’t envy Rachel, but I remember wanting her to know, if she just shifted her vantage point, she would see that she was more free that she could possibly imagine. Saying “yes” to the big MAYBE was more doable than she knew.

But she did. She said yes.

Since that time I have watched from afar as she has said “yes” and “yes” and “yes” again, and every time I encounter her I see a woman who has, eyes wide open, touched and tasted and created and learned more that is possible to convey. She is generous enough to share what she can, but the bulk of what she has gathered in these years is hers to use.

A nice thing… observing and becoming emboldened ourselves by that “yes” that is easier to say than we think.


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5 Responses to “A Couch”

  1. Geoff Woollacott said


    Didn’t learn to say it myself until about 2 1/2 years ago. Fun stuff.

  2. Sometimes, I have the opposite problem. “No” is a word, too. Apparently.

  3. Collie said

    Here’s to yesses to possibilities that might stretch us creatively and into to good heart territory. Here’s to empowered noes to options that are more about the should than the could. Here’s to Sarah for couching it so well.

  4. Emily said

    Yes Yes Yes!! I find myself so often playing games with that word, sometimes so eager to jump right in, with some innate knowledge that whatever I choose to try, the world will hold me, that everything in creation wants to see me succeed… And then other times (too often) I give in to caution and doubting, and “shoulds” and shoot myself in the foot, abort the schemes before they have a chance to become dreams, and realities. It’s just fear that makes me do it. fear of taking on too much, or making a fool of myself, or of being too weak, or not smart enough, or not being taken seriously. The problem is, then, that I don’t take MYSELF seriously.

  5. Laura said

    This is one of those things that I really struggle with. If you say ‘yes’ to a big dream and it tells you “NO”, it can take a while to dare again…

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